The Relationship Thread

[Shervik]

The relationship thread

Now... Ive been single for a long time but occasionally I bump into a potential mate here and there, and sometimes I don't have anyone to talk to about it, because well I don't feel comfortable at all talking about it to anyone. I feel kind of weird even sharing it here. But I remember we had one of these threads before, where we can help eachother if someone is lost on something about relationships, or something of that kind.

So here I go trying to bring that back. Because why talk to your friends about it when you can talk to the internet about it?

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My dilemma is that there is this girl which things have become somewhat complicated. I thought she was OK at first, mostly because she is pretty and doesnt mind talking about dirty stuff. She gave me compliments and stuff but then suddenly seems like she doesnt care the next day. Like she has an on/off switch about being nice. And at first we talked a lot, but the thing is she always expected me to start a conversation and always keep the convo going. Now okay I thought I could be her friend, because I wouldnt want to be the guy working his ass off in a relationship.

Suddenly we fight about small things, and she makes a big deal out of it. We are just friends at this point. So I think she's nuts, and I would never be in a relationship with her. After we fight though, she pretends nothing happened even though she insulted me in the fights and didnt even say sorry. But this one day she says she wants to fuck me. So instantly I think shes either insane or its a joke. No she was serious. We hang out at a party and get drunk together but she hooks up with another guy. She sends me "fuck me" looks before that though. Well, time goes on, we have another fight. I think fuck it, I'm done with this shit. Shes literally the most insane person Ive ever met.

This week I start thinking about her more and more, thinking why the fuck doesnt she say sorry about the things she said. It's like she doesnt care about our friendship. So I needed to find this out so despite me saying to myself I wont have nothing to do with her anymore, I needed to talk to her. (keep in mind I have ended my friendship with childhood friends easier than with her) She says she would ask me on a date the next day after our fights but she didnt since I said I didnt care anymore in my last message.

So obviously I think she's still insane, but I can't end anything with her, and I think I might like her, which is weird because all of my common sense and experience on women says I should have nothing to do with her. I sort of hate/love her. I dunno what it is. I feel lost and confused and weird all at once.

TLDR;
Girl says she wants to date me, and I think I want to date her too. But my mind says no, because she is all that I dont want in a girl. I dunno wtf to do.

[Disk]

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I think you shouldn't date her, if she is that random every other day. Then she is a lost cause, she doesn't give you a straight answer, plus she doesn't even remember what you talked about or even care about it the next day? WTF?.

I feel like she is trying to bait you. That's my 2 cents.

[Ghenry]

I've been down a road similar to this. Less arguing, more about us just not being into the same things. We were also taking different paths and she wasn't crazy about what I was setting my sights for.

It was nice for a while, but down the line? Seeing her was less of actually enjoying my time with her, and started to feel like a chore. And she was incredibly affectionate towards me and, from an outside perspective, that should feel great. I just wasn't feeling it nearly as much as she was. I don't think it helps that I was her 'first' as well.

That was when I forced myself to break it off.

Now, I'm not saying you need to be with someone just like you, but if this incompatibility doesn't feel like she adds to something you're missing, I don't think it's really worth it.

[Shervik]

(10-21-2015, 12:16 PM)Ghenry Wrote: I've been down a road similar to this. Less arguing, more about us just not being into the same things. We were also taking different paths and she wasn't crazy about what I was setting my sights for.

It was nice for a while, but down the line? Seeing her was less of actually enjoying my time with her, and started to feel like a chore. And she was incredibly affectionate towards me and, from an outside perspective, that should feel great. I just wasn't feeling it nearly as much as she was. I don't think it helps that I was her 'first' as well.

That was when I forced myself to break it off.

Now, I'm not saying you need to be with someone just like you, but if this incompatibility doesn't feel like she adds to something you're missing, I don't think it's really worth it.

Yeah I've decided to see how it goes. If it works, it works, if it doesnt, it doesnt. I'm not gonna kill it before it shows what it is.

[WeaponTheory]

She sounds batshit crazy.
In America, we have a saying "Don't stick your dick in crazy".
Seems like I'm too late for my two cents but screw it. Don't do it.
I'm reading red flags everywhere in the second fucking paragraph of your story, man.

[GodHatesHipster]

Yooooo?!? "She hooks up with another dude, giving me "fuck me" faces". Why is she still in consideration of being your gf?? Thats when you tell her straight up "fuck you, I don't need this shit."

[Shervik]

(10-27-2015, 03:01 AM)GodHatesHipster Wrote: Yooooo?!? "She hooks up with another dude, giving me "fuck me" faces". Why is she still in consideration of being your gf?? Thats when you tell her straight up "fuck you, I don't need this shit."

she hooked up with him after that, but no matter, you guys are missing the point, I may have feelings for her, not just considering her. It gives me chills being together with someone like her, I see it as a lost cause, like you guys are saying. But I still can't just tell her to fuck off and forget about her, so it's weird. Anyway, she invited me to her halloween party, lets see how that goes, ill she if i feel anything at all about her. I hope I don't feel anything, because shes the weirdest and most insane person ive ever met. When I ask her to hang, she says yes but never says when she can. I hate her, but I want to be with her, so you see my dilemma here?

[WeaponTheory]

You're having feelings...for a "crazy" chick. Totally nothing wrong there. >_>
Welp, I warned you. Don't do nothing fuckin' stupid at the party, like not wear a condom when she wants to have random out of nowhere sex.

[Shervik]

(10-27-2015, 07:51 PM)WeaponTheory Wrote: You're having feelings...for a "crazy" chick. Totally nothing wrong there. >_>
Welp, I warned you. Don't do nothing fuckin' stupid at the party, like not wear a condom when she wants to have random out of nowhere sex.

I will be wearing 3 condoms at all times, just in case.

[Izagar]

Never go with someone that your heart is not attached to. It causes more pain when that person begins to abuse you, similar to how one of my exes has done to me.

I have an ex whom me and him have a fire and ice relationship with one another. Want to know how bad it is? He won't let me pay back the $60 he gave me before we cut contact. Why? Because he wants me to "think about what I have chosen to do". In short I can't give him back the $60 I owe him because I choose to want to be back with another ex that this ex hates.

So if you wanna ignore red flags, go ahead and get hurt by going after a girl you clearly have no interest in and just let your hormones control your rationality. Yeah I am kinda being a bitch here but I am telling you what I realized.